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when me time becomes we time

Showing up for one another with authenticity a…

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Embrace awkward silence. You’ll live through it just fine. 

Unhelpful Statements for those needing a shoul…

  • Everything happens for a reason. 
  • This is God’s plan.
  • What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
  • It could be worse. 
  • At least it’s not cancer.
  • Just think positive thoughts. 
  • God doesn’t give you more than you can handle. 
  • At least you have one healthy child.
  • You can always just adopt.

    Really, anything beginning with “just” or “at least.” 

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You may very well believe that everything happens for a reason, or that god has a plan. Many people do. But these are YOUR beliefs, and unless you know that the suffering person shares them, they likely won’t serve as comfort the way they might for you. 

Your job is to HEAR, not reduce someone’s worry. 

When life gives you lemons, I won’t tell you a…

Worst-case scenarios make people feel even more afraid than they already did. 

BOOK: There Is No Good Card For This

I’m reading my empathy book and I’ve been sharing it over the past few days. Thanks for reading the posts, your comments are great! 

In the last chapter of this book, the author talks about what NOT to say. So, I’m sharing. 

You’re not an expert. 

Unless you actually ARE an expert, whose expertise is being asked for, hearing news of someone’s crisis is not the time to offer up casual theories about their misfortune. 

Doing this leads to two hurtful implications: 
1. The event was preventable and/or deserved, because if this person had only done X or Y they would be fine
2. Your fact-finding mission is less about providing comfort than about “weeding out” the source of a problem – to make sure it doesn’t happen to you.